People who are genuinely nice but have almost no close friends are often the ones the world describes as “lovely” — and the word is doing more work than the people using it realize, because “lovely” is what we call a person who is easy to be around, and being easy to be around is not the same thing as being known, and a life full of people calling you lovely can be one of the lonelier lives a person can build
There is a particular kind of person almost everyone describes the same way. Lovely. Sweet. Easy to talk to. Always smiling. Always kind. And yet, if you look closely at their life, something strange appears beneath all that warmth: they often have almost no truly close relationships. Not because people dislike them. Quite the opposite. … Read more